“pressure to share the bed with his snoring, procure dependents, invest in the stock market, have frequent and spontaneous sex” is helpful framing. Seems possible to manage in collaboration, though nothing of the sort happening at all (notwithstanding a couple of hopeful sleeping sessions). Either way, a marriage with zero tolerance or creativity on all these points til kingdom come by one party and with the other party desiring at least nods and openness in those directions does seem fertile ground for ossification.
“pressure to share the bed with his snoring, procure dependents, invest in the stock market, have frequent and spontaneous sex” is helpful framing. Seems possible to manage in collaboration, though nothing of the sort happening at all (notwithstanding a couple of hopeful sleeping sessions). Either way, a marriage with zero tolerance or creativity on all these points til kingdom come by one party and with the other party desiring at least nods and openness in those directions does seem fertile ground for ossification.